I have had a rather rough couple of weeks. I just can't seem to shake out of feeling lonely and unmotivated.
Last week was my birthday. I wasn't going to see my family until the weekend, so I didn't do anything to celebrate the day, not that it mattered to me all that much. I don't have any friends where I'm currently living, so going out with friends was out of the question as well. Last year's situation was similar, but I baked myself a cake, as well as took myself shopping. This year I wasn't interested in doing that. (When I arrived home on Saturday, my mom had cooked a delicious dinner, and ordered my favourite cake. I love my family.)
When you're alone, it just makes you appreciate more those who actually make an effort to be a part of your life. Those who remember you on your birthday and send you a text or video message. Those who, when you finally get to see them, are truly glad to see you.
When you're alone, you also tend to overthink. You think about your acquaintances, and former friends and wonder what they are doing with their lives. You question everything that has led up to this point and wonder what had gone so wrong that neither one of you can even bring yourself to "like" one another's photo or say hello on social media (never mind getting together).
And then you realize that social media is mostly a facade. It's a tool people use to make themselves appear sophisticated or fun, or even spiritual. Years ago I stopped using Facebook the way I did previously. I realized that a lot of people used it as a way to get self-gratification. I admit even I felt good when people "liked" my posts and interacted with me. But I realized that it wasn't healthy for me. I began to analyze people and worry about what others are thinking or saying about me. It just wasn't good for my mental health. I stopped posting personal statuses or pictures. I even deactivated my account several times. Somehow, I always end up back on the site. These days my feed has turned into a mixture of cooking videos, funny memes, scripture, and the occasional personal post from several people on my friends list... not the most exciting, but it's not depressing, either. Until I start overthinking again.
It's a never ending cycle.
I realize that the more time I spend on social media, the more depressed I feel. Why do I feel such an urge all the time to check Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube? To be honest, it wouldn't even affect me much if I leave these sites for a year! Most of my "friends" or followers wouldn't even miss my presence.
I guess it just all boils down to our humanity. Each one of us want to feel needed and appreciated. We are constantly looking for ways to feel gratified.
Social media can't satisfy us.
That hole inside you, that longing to feel whole, can only be filled by one thing. And that is God's presence.
I know that only one thing can make me feel satisfied--getting closer to Jesus and being His friend. I remember on days when I just felt so, so lonely, I prayed to God to send me someone. A friend. A BEST friend. Right after praying that I realized and acknowledged that I shouldn't seek a better friend than what Jesus should be to me. Sometimes I have to remind myself this.
Jesus. Jesus is my best Friend. I will find fulfillment in Him and Him alone.
He will never leave me.
He will never forsake me.
He will be with me always. Until the end of the world.
When you find yourself feeling lonely, overwhelmed, and sad... take time off social media. Get alone with God. Pray and seek Him. I read a quote that said
"Sometimes loneliness is God's cry for time with you".
Time spent alone with God is never wasted.
This week I'm going to stay off social media and turn my attention to what actually matters.